'Old Souls' Have Trouble Finding Love Apr 8, 2017 3:03:03 GMT -5
Post by Joanna on Apr 8, 2017 3:03:03 GMT -5
'Old Souls' Have Trouble Finding Love
An “Old Soul” is a person who has lived many lives and learned from past incarnations. These people are highly-intelligent, learn quickly and are wise beyond their years. They acquired certain knowledge from their past lives and apply it to their present life... thus gaining more wisdom than the average bloke.
Strong sense of identity. Old Souls know who they are, which means they also know – specifically – what they want, and do not want, in a partner, and what works and what doesn’t. While this is fantastic in terms of being able to choose wisely, it ultimately diminishes their pool of prospects significantly.
Hyper-intuitive. Often prone to over-thinking because of their deep sensitivity, their capacity to worry and make assumptions can break relationships that do not have a strong foundation.
Greater purpose in life. They usually have to accomplish quite a bit on their own before they find love, because Old Souls love deeply and completely. To fall in love too soon would interfere with those important endeavors they are striving to accomplish.
Refuse to “settle.” They require a lot more than just a surface-level, “average” relationship. They absolutely will not settle, and sometimes, this means biting the bullet and remaining alone for longer than what is considered “average,” or throughout their present incarnation.
Passion, but little compatibility. Because they feel so deeply and others find them so fascinating, it’s easy for them to succumb to infatuation, but to be with someone who is truly their best friend, deepest confidant and lover is a challenge.
Less likely to meet people in the modern world. Even if they have nothing against online dating, it doesn’t always come naturally, nor does finding a random hookup at a bar, or being set up on blind dates.
Old Souls are natural healers. Such an attraction is reciprocated because there’s almost nothing that feels better to an old soul than being able to help someone who truly needs it. However, at some point in time, it is crucial for them to realize they have to choose a partner, not a student, or a charity case.
The “game” has no appeal. Dating is inherently exhausting to an older-spirited person. Feigning disinterest for the sake of being “cool,” or knowing which faux pas other people find unforgivable (e.g., how long after the first date do you call or text?) isn’t the sort of thing they know and is more likely to stress them out than it does a young or new soul.
Sky-high standards. Old Souls expect a lot from themselves, so likewise, they expect a lot from their partners. While this is great in some respects, it is another quality that has to be kept in check: it is more important to be able to accept the qualities that aren’t deal-breakers than it is to just write a person off because he (or she) is imperfect.
Baggage. People who developed their inner selves quickly did so for a reason: they had to cope, they had to grow, or they had to learn from some challenging experience that life set for them. While this is fantastic, unresolved issues can often re-manifest in close relationships. Everyone has baggage, but imagine the baggage accumulated through several lifetimes!
Fear as intensely as they love. The degree to which Old Souls love is proportionate to how much they fear losing it, or not being “good enough” for it. They don’t just love intensely, they feel everything else intensely, too, and sometimes, this gets in the way of the really good things that can come from close relationships.
Source: Brianna Wiest, Thought Catalog, October 19, 2016.